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The last post was edited by DS for outting, but I grabbed a screen shot first.

I’m not on the side of the OP for not leaving FB, but the fact that a former mod is the other party?


If you can’t say something nice..??? ( http://www.diaperswappers.com/forum/showthread.php?t=911720 )

01-20-2010, 11:52 AM #1
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If you can’t say something nice..???

Just wanted some quick advice. In the middle of a trade that has gone on far too long. Same thing you always hear “family issues” Trade started in August 2009. My part of trade was totally complete by November 2009 and was told other part of trade would also be done. November 19th was told “half done, other half will be done by this weekened…” and then little contact. After Christmas I checked in, still only half done. Waited. Checked in first week of January, no message back. Checked in this week, supposed to be mailed out this Saturday. Two months from “done this weekend” to actually saying they’d be mailed. That just seems like a lot to me

Trade was for diapers made of my materials, but that I still have to snap once they arrive back to me. My biggest issue is that at this point, I am having a really hard time snapping the diapers *I* am working on because I am hugely pregnant with pelvic dysfunction issues. I am in pain most of the time and I was hopeful I would have these in time for husband to put snaps on during his winter break. Now, that’s impossible. He’s only home for one hour between dinner and going to sleep due to his work/school schedule. I wouldn’t be as upset if these were a bigger size, but these are my NEWBORN diapers. Today I was offered that these could be sent to another WAHM to be snapped for me, but at this point it’s like “Uhm then when would I see them?” I am due in 7ish weeks.

Question is, if a trade ultimately ends well, but it caused grief and stress over the duration, do you leave feedback accordingly or just leave the feedback alone. I am not the type to want everyone to know how this went. I have been very quiet about my real feelings during the trade, even though I’ve been in tears over it. I don’t want to “get back” or cause any issues and this person is very sweet and has 100% positive feedback. However, I am just really, really unhappy with the timing and communication. Is just expressing this to the other person enough? I don’t want to cause any hurt or bad feelings….

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01-20-2010, 12:31 PM #5
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Re: If you can’t say something nice..???

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I would be upset about this and to be honest…..if it would take this long I would back out. Have you shipped your stuff already?

My part of the trade was totally and completely done back in November, shipped and all. And this is for sewing diapers out of MY materials, so I don’t know how to back out LOL! Sticky situation. I sent my already cut out diaper inners, soaker pads already made and outer fabrics….all the materials to assemble the diapers. I just needed them serged with elastic put in. She isn’t putting closures on. It worked out to being $5.25 per diaper in trade value.

I hope I am not being a huge big baby here, but my biggest, biggest issue is…two months ago I was told these would be done. I had big plans for my husband to sit on the floor with the snap press and snap them. The thought of snapping them now…is just excruiating. If anyone here has ever had SPD…and had to spend several months of pregnancy walking around feeling like you were going to split in two is shaking their head in agreement right now. I don’t have my press mounted and just cannot use it on the table, for fear it would slide off and fall on my foot, or worse, on a child’s foot, so I painstakingly sit on the floor to apply snaps to things.

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Re: If you can’t say something nice..???

According to other person, I should not have contacted a mod when my last PM of “When can I expect these diapers” went unanswered despite this person posting on forums and I have not waited any longer than she had to How does that work?

Don’t you hate it when you go along, being nice, and then the second you say “Hey I’m a little unhappy about this trade..” all the sudden it’s YOU that gets turned into the bad guy?

Blech.

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Apparently this person is taking a DS break now according to their siggy (is that okay to say?) so I don’t think there will be any chance of this happening to someone else. Because of how I’ve felt about leaving less than positive, I can’t be sure there isn’t someone else out there that hasn’t had a similiar experience, but she’s been quick to point out that she’s never had anyone dissatisfied with her before. I understand that as well, but I have to point out (and I know she’s reading this) that I am not those other people. I am not the people listed on your positive feedback page. THOSE are people that recieved what they needed to recieve in a timely fashion. I am not in that group and I think it’s really unfair to somehow expect the person who isn’t happy to somehow be satisfied with how well you’ve done in previous transactions. This is OUR transaction, not your 100% positive feedback that’s being dealt with. Your 100% positive feedback reflects that you’ve been active in trades and swaps and come through with other transactions, which does not make me feel better, it makes me feel worse. It shows me you chose to complete those other things ahead of mine.

I wish people would just own their mistakes. Own up to it, make it right and stop scrambling to justify it by giving a million reasons why it was okay to do this. It is what it is

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I just got a tracking # this evening I will update when they get here. I don’t think this person would up and run or anything. She has a LOT of feedback, a TON of posts, was a moderator, etc. I think the “taking a DS break” is just one of those things where you are cruising along, everything is great and then you have one bad thing and can’t handle it. I don’t necessarily agree with ducking and running because we’re all human, and I am not a big jerk. I am not going to run this person, or her name, through the mud or anything. I just finally spoke up about the delay and she pretty much freaked.

Good call Kim!

http://www.diaperswappers.com/forum/showpost.php?p=9388497

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shady seller who doesn’t wait long to jump to next person

I have to vent cause I found a great deal while online here today. I posted immediately to the mom and then on her thread as well saying i will take all items.
my internet went out 20 minutes after I emailed her 3 times. she emailed me back saying she sold them to someone else cause she wasnt sure if I wanted them (since I wasn’t online)

I PM’d her saying : I will BUY all… within 1 minute of her post.

how much more obvious is my statement??? im so ticked cause she did post that all items were sold now, even tho its only been 2hrs since the posting and I was the 1st in line.
grrr. I can’t do anything about it. but I sure don’t like people on here who sell and are NOT considerate or polite.

I would never do this. normally there is at least 12-24hrs for someone to pay before I would pass it on to another person.

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Re: shady seller who doesn’t wait long to jump to next person

That is not a shady seller and you shouldn’t have posted a thread calling her so just because you are upset you missed out on the sale. Geez. She doesn’t owe it to you to sell you anything.

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So it looks like DS isn’t getting enough revenue from it’s members … not only did they re-direct members during the upgrade, but now there is a section in OT redirecting members to craftforum.com. All you have to do is click it and you are redirected to their site.

My word of advice is, don’t join it or go. If you do, you risk even more viruses and are funding the viruses on DS.


I am going to have to go on a hiatus due to the number of viruses on DiaperSwappers. ABP, No Script, and my software are no longer protecting my computer, and I don’t have the extra money laying around to replace my computer. So, until diaperswappers is cleaned up, I will not be surfing DS for the drama.

I am willing to do reader submissions in the meantime. f you submit emails to me with screenshots and links, I can post them here, but for a while (until DS fixes things) I won’t be going back.

TDM is still around and may be posting.


It is still early in the poll… but with the other 5 threads about this string of ONGOING viruses, and Lee claiming he stopped the ads doing it a few days ago, it is just interesting.

http://www.diaperswappers.com/forum/showthread.php?t=909197

View Poll Results: Did you get the virus pop up while your supporter membership was active?
Yes, I did get the virus pop up when I had an active DS supporter membership 4 9.76%
No, I did not get the virus pop up when I had an active DS supporter membership 4 9.76%
Yes, I did get the virus pop-up when I did not have an active DS supporter membership 29 70.73%
No, I did not get the virus pop up when I did not have an active DS supporter membership 4 9.76%
Other 0 0%
Voters: 41. You may not vote on this poll

Look who it is!

Posted: January 14, 2010 by DSDM2 in Kudos to DS, News Announcements

I just thought it was nice to see her back.

http://www.diaperswappers.com/forum/showthread.php?t=907366

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What’s going on with all those here that do remember me?

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Paypal…I won’t be using it anymore

I have had no problems with my paypal account. I have had it for many years. I have 100% feedback on EBAY.
BUT Paypal has placed a hold on any funds I received for 21 days or until buyers received my items. Makes no sense and I am TICKED!!!
So, I will not be taking paypal payments anymore.

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then in another thread here: http://www.diaperswappers.com/forum/showthread.php?s=0f85441364b88343fc51b1d95d9e8402&t=905849

01-11-2010, 01:56 PM #1

Anyone Get this From PP?

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Important message about your account. From now on, money you receive will be temporarily held in a pending balance. To learn more, please read our funds availability policy

I called and appealed it. They can hold all of my funds from a transaction for 21 days or till I get pos feedback on eBay and Delivery is confirmed. This means that every transaction from here is held for 21 days. What a load of crap. It is “to protect you from charge backs and your customers from you not having funds for a return.”

Ok – so, now I will get money to ship to Mommies and not be able to ship When my client pays me for the writng I give her each week…she gets her work first…then I will have to wait 21 days to access those funds although she is satisfied or would not have paid me. What is this load of BS? Anyone else going through this? I have never had a dispute, never not refunded someone, nor had problems. I just do not have 100 stars on eBay. Who cares. This is not eBay!!! I am totally POed! They better overturn it or I am going to be even more mad.

This really sounds like a great idea to me. It protects people from scammers. The posters here are not in question, so I just put the relevant quotes.

What do they plan on doing that offers ANY protection, or that has a 21 day turn around? If you do a personal check, you have 3-10 days waiting to get it, and then another 3 to make sure it will clear the bank.. then you have the time to ship the item, make sure mom is happy with said item (3-10 more days), and THEN the money is yours. So that is what.. MAYBE 4 days faster, or maybe 4 days slower? On that same side, there is absolutely no protection for the buyers with check, money order, cash, or RME (is that still around?).

Don’t sell if you can’t afford to ship, and don’t complain about paypal holding money to protect someone. 21 days is not long, and you shouldn’t be counting on that money until after the buyer has the item and is content with the purchase.