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Just put in a little thread close smiley and no need for anyone else to comment! Now we can all be mods!

The OP deleted her original post, but thankfully it was quoted.

topic closed please delete (http://www.diaperswappers.com/forum/showthread.php?t=894856)

MotherMoonPads 12-22-2009 10:04 AM

Re: Is this normal??
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Originally Posted by HeWearsCloth (Post 9157419)
I did a trade with a mama on here and I’ll be honest since it’s from another country I decided to wait to send out my item because you never know! Well it’s been about a month and I have yet to receive it! It’s coming from Canada and Im in PA!!!!! I asked the trader about it on the 10t of December and she said she mailed it but without a tracking number that she bets I will probably have it the next day or the next week….nope I still don’t have it. What should I do?? Keep waiting?? How long does this take??:headscratch:

Personally, I think you were REALLY wrong to wait to send your part of the trade, if the other mama does not know that you did that.

International shipping is S-L-O-W at Christmastime. Most first class packages take 3-5 weeks to arrive. So now you’re upset that your part of teh trade hasn’t arrived yet, how do you think the other mama will feel when hers will take 3-5 weeks longer now?

HeWearsCloth 12-22-2009 01:07 PM

Re: Is this normal??
Okay I simply asked a question everyone don’t need to be ganging up on me!

The mama does know I still have mine and I’m simply holding it because I’ve been screwed before so I alway’s wait until I receive the other item’s and I ship mine priority with a tracking number! I didn’t see the harm in this as a mama asked me to ship mine first because of her previous expeiences so I did, also I did NOT know it could take this long to receive an item from Canada or anywhere else or I would have shipped this sooner. To ship it today would just be dumb esp. cause of Christmas coming right around the corner, so I will be at the mail box first thing SATURDAY mornig as I live right across from the P.O.!

Besides I’m not going to scam her. I love this site and I wouldn’t do anything to jepordize my name on it. I’m just new at this and just because I was asked to do this before and I did and I agreed because I trust people I’m not going to live my life being paranoid, I take chances! Besides, until I knew that it took this long to ship I was thinking I was going to get scammed (if I was to send mine out) since I had yet to receive something.

Thank you to those who helped clear up my question’s and for the rest of you I’m not so thankful!

TOPIC CLOSED!!

HeWearsCloth 12-22-2009 04:51 PM

Re: Is this normal??
The trader know’s I waited and as for the two who recently left a comment. You don’t even know what were talking about so theres no need for your two cents. Thanks!!

Where was the co-op and who is the WAHM?

http://www.diaperswappers.com/forum/showthread.php?s=ebad2fa5d5bf71c82bbb631cd1bfc36d&t=893912

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So, if a coop goes “bad” (i.e. items not being received by most participants; items not really being shipped when they are said to be & lots of excuses on the part of the WAHM) BTW this is a drop-shipping coop NOT on DS for some big ticket items….

Anyway the coop host (who incidentally was one of only 3 folks to actually receive her stuff) seems very lackadaisical about all of the shipping delays & excuses but I just think that the WAHM didn’t complete items on time & called for shipping just to make it appear that stuff would actually be here by Christmas (I would not have ordered otherwise)

since coop stuff is paid to the host as “personal” is there any recourse to get $ back for these items which I do not believe have shipped or are even complete? It’s just about the 45 day pp window (for the original payment)…the best I could do is claim against the shipping I paid, but a tracking # will show in pp (it’s just a label was printed message, though)


This is what I am getting from the OP:  “I’m rude and opinionated, but that is ok until someone else is mean to me…”

I foresee another big YAGE, a banning, and multiple UNs from this mama.

Diaper Swappers “Mean Girls”!! http://www.diaperswappers.com/forum/showthread.php?t=888733

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Diaper Swappers “Mean Girls”!!

It used to be when I first joined up here almost a year ago that I would come on to Off Topic forum and have some fun conversation. But in the past 2 months I’m sick just visiting this forum. We have some MEAN GIRLS on our hands here! I have received two strikes since this has happened. Once for defending my religion, and the second strike was for defending my RIGHT to formula feed after that last thread disaster.

Why do some mothers on here feel the need to pick others apart? Why do they feel the need to start threads which they KNOW will hurt many, MANY mamas on here? What has happened? I am a grownup. I act that way. Why can’t some people on here stop acting like the “Popular” girls in high school that feel so low about themselves that they need to make everyone else feel like dirt?

Please for the sake of your children, and you know who YOU are. Change. Stop the cycle here and now. Because you will teach this to your kids. They will adopt your attitudes and become the bullies throughout life.

BE NICE!!!!!!

I may have stooped to some low levels when I was backed against the wall, and I’m sorry. Let’s all SUPPORT each other now. I felt like this was an extension of my family when I first joined. I hope to feel that again. I really do like ALL of you ladies. I never had a problem with differences ever in my life.

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Re: Diaper Swappers “Mean Girls”!!

I’m firmly of the opinion that if you want to join a community and talk amongst adults, you’d best put on your big girl panties, because not everyone holds the same opinion as you, and you’re pretty well guaranteed to not like some of them.

And in all honesty OP, you had at least as much of a hand in making the one thread heated and upsetting as anyone else. You took it too personally, and started lashing out at anyone who’s opinion was different than yours. Sure, that thread due to the subject matter was probably destined to become heated, but please, take a little responsibility. You took on the label of “Mean Girl” yourself there. Some of the things you said were pretty darn nasty and you offended a few mamas yourself. And I think the saddest part about it was that if you actually read the subject of it, it had very little to do with you. Don’t put this all on the people who started the thread, it takes two (or more) to create the flame war that devolved into.

If you don’t like a thread, don’t read it, certainly don’t respond to it, and eventually it’ll drop off the first page and go into oblivion like all the others. The more you respond to it, the more it gets bumped up and the more it gets replied to. You’re perfectly welcome to not like certain threads and discussions but that’s one of the beauties of an online message forum – you don’t have to read the ones you don’t like! You can only be put on the defensive and backed into a corner if you let yourself be.

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Re: Diaper Swappers “Mean Girls”!!

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I’m firmly of the opinion that if you want to join a community and talk amongst adults, you’d best put on your big girl panties, because not everyone holds the same opinion as you, and you’re pretty well guaranteed to not like some of them.

And in all honesty OP, you had at least as much of a hand in making the one thread heated and upsetting as anyone else. You took it too personally, and started lashing out at anyone who’s opinion was different than yours. Sure, that thread due to the subject matter was probably destined to become heated, but please, take a little responsibility. You took on the label of “Mean Girl” yourself there. Some of the things you said were pretty darn nasty and you offended a few mamas yourself. And I think the saddest part about it was that if you actually read the subject of it, it had very little to do with you. Don’t put this all on the people who started the thread, it takes two (or more) to create the flame war that devolved into.

If you don’t like a thread, don’t read it, certainly don’t respond to it, and eventually it’ll drop off the first page and go into oblivion like all the others. The more you respond to it, the more it gets bumped up and the more it gets replied to. You’re perfectly welcome to not like certain threads and discussions but that’s one of the beauties of an online message forum – you don’t have to read the ones you don’t like! You can only be put on the defensive and backed into a corner if you let yourself be.

See, this is what I’m talking about. Your ego is HUGE! I was referring to another post with a mama asking advice about her baby falling asleep on the floor. The posters were VERY rude! I’m finished answering you though. I don’t know how I should feel then being told I fed my children , “Substandard, sugary, crap”. Ummm, okay, yeah. I shouldn’t have felt bad at ALL! :eyesroll:

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Re: Diaper Swappers “Mean Girls”!!

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I’m firmly of the opinion that if you want to join a community and talk amongst adults, you’d best put on your big girl panties, because not everyone holds the same opinion as you, and you’re pretty well guaranteed to not like some of them.

And in all honesty OP, you had at least as much of a hand in making the one thread heated and upsetting as anyone else. You took it too personally, and started lashing out at anyone who’s opinion was different than yours. Sure, that thread due to the subject matter was probably destined to become heated, but please, take a little responsibility. You took on the label of “Mean Girl” yourself there. Some of the things you said were pretty darn nasty and you offended a few mamas yourself. And I think the saddest part about it was that if you actually read the subject of it, it had very little to do with you. Don’t put this all on the people who started the thread, it takes two (or more) to create the flame war that devolved into.

If you don’t like a thread, don’t read it, certainly don’t respond to it, and eventually it’ll drop off the first page and go into oblivion like all the others. The more you respond to it, the more it gets bumped up and the more it gets replied to. You’re perfectly welcome to not like certain threads and discussions but that’s one of the beauties of an online message forum – you don’t have to read the ones you don’t like! You can only be put on the defensive and backed into a corner if you let yourself be.

I completely agree.

I mean, talking about not wanting to see people “hanging their teat out” and vowing to “report them” and have them dragged out of stores? Really? That said enough to me about your true nature. However, in spite of all the ugliness (including the ugliness you put out there,) I don’t see that thread as comparable to the “Mean Girls” movie whatsoever.

Anywho… I have never received a strike and I have participated in many heated threads and offered my opinion. It’s all in what you say and how you say it. Just something to think about.

While I don’t agree with what went on in the most recent dramatical thread, I also don’t think that this is a case of “ZOMG everybody is sooo mean and cliquey!” I think things need to be read with BGP firmly in place. I also don’t think starting a separate thread for the purpose of handslapping is really doing anyone any good.

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Hmmm methinks … pot meet kettle.

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Re: Diaper Swappers “Mean Girls”!!

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This post makes me want to do this . You really need to stop before you end up with another strike.

Oh the horror!

To be banned from Diaper Swappers. I mean come on. If that’s supposed to upset me then that’s funny. I belong to another community that I’ve never had problems on so I think I’ll stick with them there.

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Why would you send products and not have payment first?

It is a little fishy at best. She sent items, knowing they were going to be used with a giftcard/certificate and then says the card can’t be used? Sounds like someone wanted to unload some products. I’m not advocating it, but the OP could totally keep them and there is nothing the WAHM can do. I agree with the poster who said mail in $38 and tell her to use the giftcard on the rest.

(sigh) Really? (http://www.diaperswappers.com/forum/showthread.php?p=9055730#post9055730)

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(sigh) Really?

I ordered some diaper stuff from a store, was delighted. I got an e-mail that the owner was giving me $50 store credit that I won in a drawing. This is Oct. 16.

Drooling, I loaded up my cart with some stuff that DH NEVER would have gone for, I can just hear him now, “$65 pants for the baby? I love him too, but NO WAY!!!”:giggle:

I get a note back from the owner that I didn’t read the fine print and that the brand I wanted was excluded from the offer. I didn’t see what else I could get- I had everything I needed and I was using the credit for some impulse stuff.

A couple weeks later, I got a call from the store asking for payment for the stuff I wanted. I didn’t get back to them… Work/life is crazy I look up and more time had passed and I just forgot about it.

Today, December 7, I get the pants and another thing I wanted in the mail with an invoice for $83! I’m leaving in a few hours for a month, and now this stupid headache in on my plate.:banghead:

What to do?

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