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Dog vs shorties….not good Can these be fixed? (http://www.diaperswappers.com/forum/showthread.php?t=732242)

lisajnapier 04-29-2009 01:52 PM

Dog vs shorties….not good Can these be fixed?
Title says it all

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I had the bright idea to put these outside to dry in the shade on Saturday. Well while I was busy inside the wind picked up and blew these shorties (that btw are new and had never even been tried on) into the dogs area. Needless to say a lab/blue heeler is a chewer.

Do you think these can be fixed at all?
I am not a knitter at all. So it would be something someone else would have to fix for me.

What’s this doing in the FSOT section? Good thing it’s not for sale.

Opinions on an item please (http://www.diaperswappers.com/forum/showthread.php?t=730806)

Jessica0224 04-27-2009 06:53 PM

Opinions on an item please
I need opinions on a recent custom. I am unhappy with it. The WAHM has been great in responding. I haven’t asked for anything and she hasn’t offered, we are still discussing the issue. She has a ton of positive feedback. She seemed hurt that I complained & I feel bad about that. I have never complained about an item before. So I need to know if I’m seeing issues that aren’t there. Would you be upset about paying full price for this sewing? I see looped and broken thread that reminds me of what my sewing looks like when my tension is off – but it could be something else entirely for all I know. Also missed seams and just wonky stitching. But maybe I’m wrong, I’d like feedback before I respond back to the most recent email.

loops & broken threads on inner and outer seam

broken thread and??

missed seams – three spots of this

So am I imagining it? Is this within what you find acceptable 1st quality for a WAHM? I really want opinions, I hate hurting anyone’s feelings.

If you can’t sew, don’t get all butt hurt when someone complains about your crappy work. We know times are hard, you’re “just” a mom, etc. But you can’t ship out a shitty product and expect people to be sensitive to your feelings.
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Re: Opinions on an item please *update post 27

OP, has the wahm offered to fix the items? Could she remake the items she sent you into the similar items that offer the feature you wanted? And as long as she is fixing/remaking the items, couldn’t she get thread to match and charge you the additional fee? It’s worth asking. . . It’s always better to get what you want even if you have to wait a bit to get it (and either way, you’ll have to wait now — even if you ordered from someone else, you’d have to wait and some of the other replies said that this wahm is the only one that makes this item so you might even be able to find somewhere else to get them from) than to leave neg fb, possibly be out the pp and both you and the wahm be upset from this transaction.

I’m going to play devil’s advocate here. . . flame me if you must (good luck with the smileys not working <insert giggle smiley here>), but playing devil’s advocate is just in my nature. . . I can’t help it.

Oh, yeah, and these are just thoughts that came to mind while reading this thread. . .

1. The OP stated several times that this wahm has been great in responding, polite and responsive, so I don’t see why everyone is saying to go ahead and leave her negative feedback. Feedback stickies encourage us to wait until the transaction is completely over before leaving feedback. And if the op is still speaking with the wahm about the issues, then the transaction is not completely over.

2. There are plenty of wahms (here and on HC) that don’t give refunds for customs, that allow you to either return them and get store credit (many with restocking fees) or offer to remake them if there are issues. This is because custom items are just that — custom, made to one person’s specifications and therefore harder to resell than standard sized items.

3. Several people have mentioned that this could have been a tension issue and that it’s possible that the wahm saw that one side looked fine and assumed the 2nd side looked fine, too. And the OP stated that the wahm has a ton of positive feedback, so surely she wouldn’t have tons of positive feedback if she was bad at sewing. So why not give her the benefit of the doubt and let her try to fix it before asking for a refund? We wahms are all human and all make mistakes. And most of us have kiddos or are pg. We all have a lot of stuff going on. So cut a mama some slack. . . give her a chance to fix the issue. If you’re not going to get a refund anyways, then what can it hurt?

4. Wahms are humans, not machines. I understand that customers expect good quality work, but expecting work to be done perfectly, no stitch out of line. . . I don’t sew, but is it even possible to make something perfectly? I’m not saying that this work is acceptable, just replying to a post in this thread. . .

5. Some wahms have policies that other people think are weird (like the thread policy of this wahm). It’s not necessarily because they are lazy or cheap. Those are just the policies that they decided upon and policies change all the time. Being a WAHM is a work in progress, it’s always evolving, at least for me.

IMO you should see if the wahm will fix/remake the items to your satisfaction before leaving feedback. Just my 2 cents.

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Re: Opinions on an item please *update post 27

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OP, has the wahm offered to fix the items? Could she remake the items she sent you into the similar items that offer the feature you wanted? And as long as she is fixing/remaking the items, couldn’t she get thread to match and charge you the additional fee? It’s worth asking. . . It’s always better to get what you want even if you have to wait a bit to get it (and either way, you’ll have to wait now — even if you ordered from someone else, you’d have to wait and some of the other replies said that this wahm is the only one that makes this item so you might even be able to find somewhere else to get them from) than to leave neg fb, possibly be out the pp and both you and the wahm be upset from this transaction.

I’m going to play devil’s advocate here. . . flame me if you must (good luck with the smileys not working <insert giggle smiley here>), but playing devil’s advocate is just in my nature. . . I can’t help it.

Oh, yeah, and these are just thoughts that came to mind while reading this thread. . .

1. The OP stated several times that this wahm has been great in responding, polite and responsive, so I don’t see why everyone is saying to go ahead and leave her negative feedback. Feedback stickies encourage us to wait until the transaction is completely over before leaving feedback. And if the op is still speaking with the wahm about the issues, then the transaction is not completely over.

2. There are plenty of wahms (here and on HC) that don’t give refunds for customs, that allow you to either return them and get store credit (many with restocking fees) or offer to remake them if there are issues. This is because custom items are just that — custom, made to one person’s specifications and therefore harder to resell than standard sized items.

3. Several people have mentioned that this could have been a tension issue and that it’s possible that the wahm saw that one side looked fine and assumed the 2nd side looked fine, too. And the OP stated that the wahm has a ton of positive feedback, so surely she wouldn’t have tons of positive feedback if she was bad at sewing. So why not give her the benefit of the doubt and let her try to fix it before asking for a refund? We wahms are all human and all make mistakes. And most of us have kiddos or are pg. We all have a lot of stuff going on. So cut a mama some slack. . . give her a chance to fix the issue. If you’re not going to get a refund anyways, then what can it hurt?

4. Wahms are humans, not machines. I understand that customers expect good quality work, but expecting work to be done perfectly, no stitch out of line. . . I don’t sew, but is it even possible to make something perfectly? I’m not saying that this work is acceptable, just replying to a post in this thread. . .

5. Some wahms have policies that other people think are weird (like the thread policy of this wahm). It’s not necessarily because they are lazy or cheap. Those are just the policies that they decided upon and policies change all the time. Being a WAHM is a work in progress, it’s always evolving, at least for me.

IMO you should see if the wahm will fix/remake the items to your satisfaction before leaving feedback. Just my 2 cents.

Why have you failed to mention the fact that you are the WAHM in questions sister? You claim in your post to be innocently playing “devil’s advocate” but I think it would have been more honest to tell everyone that you are the WAHM’s sister. It is perfectly okay to come to the defense of a friend or relative, but the way you went about this is very deceitful.

I’m glad things got worked out, I knew they would. She is a very nice mama to work with despite what has gone on in this thread. I hope you get what you are looking for!

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Why have you failed to mention the fact that you are the WAHM in questions sister? You claim in your post to be innocently playing “devil’s advocate” but I think it would have been more honest to tell everyone that you are the WAHM’s sister. It is perfectly okay to come to the defense of a friend or relative, but the way you went about this is very deceitful.

I’m glad things got worked out, I knew they would. She is a very nice mama to work with despite what has gone on in this thread. I hope you get what you are looking for!

So I’m not allowed to have any opinions about being a WAHM in general (even though I am a wahm) or post any opinions because I might be related to someone who sews? The OP did not say who the WAHM in question is (nor is she allowed to) and my opinions are just that — mine. I don’t like to see anyone get bashed by a lynch mob and have been the devil’s advocate in many other threads that did not involve any family or friends. Not to mention, if I were to go on a thread that was about my sister and say “hey, I’m this unrevealed wahm’s sister”, I would be outing that wahm which is not permitted.

I don’t like these threads as the person being criticized is not allowed to respond and defend themselves or tell the rest of the story. I understand why as to some extent it decreases the amount of drama, but it hasn’t seemed to decrease drama in this case as despite the OPs statements that the wahm in question was not avoiding dealing with the issue and was polite, working with her to figure out a solution but just did not agree with her 100% almost everyone who has replied to this thread has bashed this wahm for “not being willing to fix the issue” even though she is.

Not to mention, the OP is satisfied with the outcome, so why is this even still an issue? You ran out of drama bashing the wahm and want to bash me? That’s fine. . . but if you can state your opinion, I can state mine. And if you don’t feel the necessity to preface your every post by listing everyone on DS who is your friend or relative, then don’t expect me to either.

And I don’t see why anyone would base whether or not they would buy from a wahm based on one person’s issue with one item that is in the process of being resolved, especially when this wahm has “tons of positive fb” according to the OP. . .

Just updating the drama.

These aren’t in EUC (http://www.diaperswappers.com/forum/showthread.php?t=729310)

MamaWillow 04-25-2009 06:28 PM

These aren’t in EUC
I just recieved an interlock item that I got on FSOT. It was listed as EUC and nothing was mentioned about the condition (stains, etc). There was a photo and they looked fine.

Well, they have stains all over them. They aren’t TOO bad, but still there are stains, the sort of dingy looking stains that interlock seems to get sometimes. The color of the item is also faded in some areas (this is my first experience with the particular brand, so maybe that’s how they are anyways) and the tag on the back is coming unstitched a little. The stains don’t show up in the photos, but the minute I took them out of the package I noticed them. I’m not an expert, but I don’t think they would be considered EUC.

I really like this item, so I want to keep it. My problem is that if I had known that they were in this condition, I probably wouldn’t have paid what I did. IMO something with stains should cost less than a similar item that doesn’t have stains. I guess I just assume that someone will mention that there are stains, or something wrong with the item….do I really have to ask that question? Isn’t it the sellers responsibility to list the item properly?

What should I do? Like I said, I want to keep these, but I don’t think they were listed properly and I feel like I paid an EUC price but they aren’t EUC.

WillowBuns8 04-25-2009 07:09 PM

Re: These aren’t in EUC
That’s a toughy. While it is proper to list if there are stains, stitching issues, or other problems, as a buyer it is your responsibility to ask questions about the details that are important to you.
I do think it stinks that you weren’t told about the staining. I would pm the seller and tell them that you feel you paid too much for the item because you feel it wasn’t in the condition you were led to believe it was in. I would then state what you think you *should* have paid for it (you know, what you would have been willing to pay had you known) and ask for a partial refund.
Do mention the positives that you mentioned here. That you like the item and if the shipping was fast and fair, mention that too. Those compliments can help if you’re trying to get a partial refund back.
Keep in mind that your idea of EUC may be totally different than another persons.

Personally if I were listing an item to sell I would be very thorough in its description. I’d probably write a book. I just wouldn’t want anyone to think I was misrepresenting the item. But that’s just me….
Good luck!

kimb96 04-25-2009 07:37 PM

Re: These aren’t in EUC
Always ask questions. Especially when an item’s description is vague. it’s usually vague for a reason. But I’d say you are out of luck. You are buying used items and they don’t come with a money back guarantee. That’s why it’s so important to know what you are buying.
clmobley87 04-26-2009 09:26 PM

Re: These aren’t in EUC
That is why you must always ask. It would be one thing if you had asked if there were stains or if anything was wrong with them and they had lied. The EUC means something different to different people. I have had that happen before too. That is thee issue with buying used. An item was said to have perfect elastic and IMO it was going to need to be replaced very soon. SS you had to deal with this. Hopefully the mama will do right by you and refund the differnce for its condition. Good Luck!
messy mama 04-26-2009 10:49 PM

Re: These aren’t in EUC
Well, I think it sucks that you got something that is stained!! Unless of course, you knew before you bought it.

Here is my own personal opinion when it comes to matters such as this:

If an item has stains, it should be stated in the listing.

If an item has holes, it should be stated in the listing.

If an item has a broken snap or missing snap, it should be stated in the listing.

If the elastic is jacked up, it should be stated in the listing.

The opposite of all of these things should be the default listing. I know we are dealing w/ used items, so I don’t expect everything to be EUC. But when it isn’t, it should be stated in the listing!!

Maybe before we commit to a purchase we should send a lengthy form for seller to fill out.

Or we could save the time and the seller could state it in the listing to begin with. :goodvibes:

I like the way you think messy mama. Why should we have to ask 100 questions about an item we are wanting to BUY?  Shady sellers are not cool.

What makes a knit item just good or GREAT? (http://www.diaperswappers.com/forum/showthread.php?t=728522)

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What makes a knit item just good or GREAT?

Im a new to knitting and doing tester rounds right now and all you wool lovers out there need to help me make my knitting great. So what do you look for in great knit wool? What makes it wonderful? I know the colorway is important, what else?

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Ummm… ALL OF THE ABOVE!! HELLO!! If I am paying for good yarn and the knitting, I better be getting all the above!

Just another example of one of those “I have yarn and some needles ‘WAHM’ (aka anyone with a machine or what-have you WAHMs)”


Does this disturb you? (http://www.diaperswappers.com/forum/showthread.php?t=729482)

Emmaleigh3699 04-26-2009 10:50 AM

Re: Does this disturb you?
selling dirty clothes is NASTY!!! Sure, we all wash clothes when we get them anyway, but I don’t want your lunch leftovers, your snot, or your skid marks in MY washer! *gag* if its a stain, ok fine – but actual STUFF, grooooooooossssssssssssssssssssssssss

and picking up all the son’s clothes to sell them…
she’s just goin to have to buy more clothes so why is she doing this?

my fear would be getting dirty boy underwear in that bag…ewwwwww

boys are so gross.

KaleidoscopeEyes 04-26-2009 11:40 AM

Re: Does this disturb you?
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Originally Posted by Emmaleigh3699 (Post 7069535)
boys are so gross.

Maybe yours are, but mine aren’t.
Emmaleigh3699 04-26-2009 12:08 PM

Re: Does this disturb you?
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Originally Posted by KaleidoscopeEyes (Post 7069898)
Maybe yours are, but mine aren’t.

most are – ever clean a men’s restroom? its disgusting.
NataschaN 04-26-2009 12:56 PM

Re: Does this disturb you?

I can asure you. My husband, our son or any of my DC boys are not gross:thumbsup:

Little boys are only as gross as their parents let them be.
Our 28 month old cleans up behind himself before he takes out new toys. Messy soemtimes, but for most parts he is a very good boy and cleans up messes.

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Originally Posted by Emmaleigh3699 (Post 7069535)
boys are so gross.

KaleidoscopeEyes 04-26-2009 01:41 PM

Re: Does this disturb you?
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Originally Posted by Emmaleigh3699 (Post 7070108)
most are – ever clean a men’s restroom? its disgusting.

Yep, never had a problem, didn’t think it was any dirtier than the ladies room. Sorry to be so defensive but sexist statement, heck generalizations in general really bother me.
Emmaleigh3699 04-26-2009 01:41 PM

Re: Does this disturb you?
Quote:

Originally Posted by NataschaN (Post 7070505)
I can asure you. My husband, our son or any of my DC boys are not gross:thumbsup:

Little boys are only as gross as their parents let them be.
Our 28 month old cleans up behind himself before he takes out new toys. Messy soemtimes, but for most parts he is a very good boy and cleans up messes.


well then, I’m a horrible excuse for a mama and let my son be disgusting :thumbsup:
seriously – boys tend to be messy. My son cleans up after himself just like any other child and he washes just fine – but he still does things like throw clothes on the floor and leaves the occasional skid mark – LIKE ANY OTHER BOY.

I mean, except yours and the other poster, cause your boys are perfectly clean little angels that don’t play in mud, don’t miss the toilet, don’t get distracted, turn and accidentally pee on the wall, don’t sweat, don’t mix dirty and clean clothes, don’t burp, don’t spit when they get something gross in their mouths, don’t drool in their sleep and don’t fart :thumbsup:

come on mamas, drop the defensive stuff.

KaleidoscopeEyes 04-26-2009 01:43 PM

Re: Does this disturb you?
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Originally Posted by Emmaleigh3699 (Post 7070921)
well then, I’m a horrible excuse for a mama and let my son be disgusting :thumbsup:
seriously – boys tend to be messy. My son cleans up after himself just like any other child and he washes just fine – but he still does things like throw clothes on the floor and leaves the occasional skid mark – LIKE ANY OTHER BOY.

I mean, except yours and the other poster, cause your boys are perfectly clean little angels that don’t play in mud, don’t miss the toilet, don’t get distracted, turn and accidentally pee on the wall, don’t sweat, don’t mix dirty and clean clothes, don’t burp, don’t spit when they get something gross in their mouths, don’t drool in their sleep and don’t fart :thumbsup:

come on mamas, drop the defensive stuff.


Well I guess humans are gross because most of those things can be said of girl too.
Who cares about the original start of the thread? Let’s skip to the good stuff.

Now THIS just makes me mad!!! (http://www.diaperswappers.com/forum/showthread.php?t=720049)

looking8186 04-14-2009 09:04 AM

Now THIS just makes me mad!!!
I get weekly email updates from Parent’s magazine throughout my pregnancy telling me how many weeks I am etc. but this one just made me mad!
This is what is started with-

“So here’s the real deal on breastfeeding: No one’s disputing that it’s hands-down the best nutrition a newborn can get, but it may not be possible for some moms (here are the main reasons why) — even those who give it their absolute best shot. More on this below. ”

Here’s what it links to–

http://www.parents.com/baby/breastfe…mh=dm17.374955

Are you KIDDING ME?? I mean seriously as a first time mom who is a bit freaked out to start with but luckily 200% committed to breastfeeding this just p!sses me off!! There are so many moms who if they were unsure would just be freaked out by that and not even want to try :yuck: And come on… may not be possible because of those issues, seriously I think everyone who bfs deals with some amount of leaking, engorgement, nipple confusion (not if you don’t introduce bottles/pacis though DUH), and sore nipples but that DOES NOT mean that you CAN’T bf. I understand that there are some moms who literally CAN’T due to various issues but to basically tell new moms that if they deal with these problems they CAN’T! To me that is just ridiculous :banghead:

mimanchibella 04-14-2009 09:42 AM

Re: Now THIS just makes me mad!!!
now, you post makes me horribly angry! I didnt read the entire thing, but did you ever think to step off of your high horse and think of us mamas that CANT bf? Try delevering your LO at 24 weeks, watching him suffer through things that NO child should have to endure and then two weeks later, when it is time to stop IV fluids, NOT BEING ABLE TO PRODUCE ****! I tried. I failed. You are no better than me.
looking8186 04-14-2009 09:48 AM

Re: Now THIS just makes me mad!!!
Quote:

Originally Posted by mimanchibella (Post 6938546)
now, you post makes me horribly angry! I didnt read the entire thing, but did you ever think to step off of your high horse and think of us mamas that CANT bf? Try delevering your LO at 24 weeks, watching him suffer through things that NO child should have to endure and then two weeks later, when it is time to stop IV fluids, NOT BEING ABLE TO PRODUCE ****! I tried. I failed. You are no better than me.

Ahem… Excuse me :headscratch: Please… If you are going to comment about my post.. please please please read all the way through it.

“I understand that there are some moms who literally CAN’T but to basically tell new moms that if they deal with these problems they CAN’T! To me that is just ridiculous”

If you have EVER read ANY of my posts you would know that I am often the one standing up for moms in tough situations. I formula fed many a foster babe and have absoloutly NOTHING against formula feeding. What frustrates me it the LACK OF SUPPORT that new mothers receive and how THAT in itself can make new moms not want to breastfeed. I said NOTHING about moms not breastfeeding when either they or their lo’s have medical issues or even when they just choose not to. My post was IN NO WAY a bash at formula feeding moms only at the companies/organizations who bash/portray breastfeeding in a bad light. I’m truly sorry that you had such a bad experience :hugs: but PLEASE look twice before you crucify someone who didn’t even do anything to you.

Here- I even edited the post to say “may not be possible because of those issues ” (meaning the ones stated in that article) to hopefully make it 100000% clear that I AM NOT bashing moms who CAN’T bf

I hate mommy wars, but if you’re going to fight one, at least don’t go all non sequitur.


Please help! (http://www.diaperswappers.com/forum/showthread.php?t=727445)

hsmk 04-23-2009 08:23 AM

Please help!
I mailed a lot of mama’s packages last week and they all came back to me! Because the check that I wrote bounced so I had to go down to the PO pick up the packages and pay for the check when we had enough money in the bank to cover the cost of shipping and more! I’m so mad at both the bank and the PO. Why in the world did they come back to me? What can I do? I’m sending all the packages back out first thing tomorrow morning with cash!
But what do I do with the bank? They’re always messing up people’s accounts. My sister closed her account with them because her deposits never went in on time and she was always being overdrawn and they have my mom’s entire account froze because my step father passed away so she can’t even pay his funeral bill because the money is in the bank.
I’m so mad!!! I’ve had enough trouble with the bank and the PO already!

Is it me or does this sound like an excuse for late shipping?